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Careful What You Ask For

You know the old cliché, “Careful What You Ask For…You Might Get It” ??

I fear I could be there soon!

For a while I have been feeling a bit bored in my career, I have not really ‘moved up the ladder’ for a few years now, and have been doing the same sort of thing for about 5 years now, I am really looking to broaden my skills and responsibilities so I can find different challenges.

Over the past few months I have been involved in a project where the guy who was leading the team, has not really been pulling his weight, nice enough fella, but just not up to the job, and thus a high profile 20 Million pound project is put at risk. So where the various gap’s have been appearing I have had to step in and get involved in areas that I have not really had much background in, and it has been alright! I have done a decent job, if I say so myself. Of course the bean counters, and jobsworth’s have been squirming in their pants, as I am stepping outside my proscribed role, but I say f&*k em’. The project stakeholders have been happy that I have kept the show on the road, and the project moves forward. And I am learning new skills, so for my next role I can sell myself as a more than just the guy with the screwdriver but the guy with the clipboard, and I will be moving on in my career development (btw- the other guy got asked to leave).

So what’s this got to do with the church I hear you ask…. ?

Recalling a church situation, where someone in a calling had not been pulling their weight, and while 20 Million Pounds is not at risk, you could argue as a believer, that other peoples spiritual development is damaged as someone in a position of responsibility are not doing what they should. This problem was frustrating. I was thinking really they should have be released, but as it was a small unit, and there was not much choice in warm bodies to help, they stayed. I firmly believe (I won’t use the “K” word) that even me, as an openly non-traditional believer could have done a better job. And therein lies today’s gripe…

There is an army of good people out there, who love the church, but are excluded from many things because they are non-traditional believers, but who would dearly love to get involved, hold callings and help out. But the church because of policy and lack of understanding and engagement with these people is missing out on their many talents, and I think the church as a whole is suffering through loss of these peoples skills.

I remember having a conversation with a priesthood leader about people attending while not believing 100% in everything the church teaches, his view is that is not something that he as a leader (and he implied the rest of the leadership) could never condone people attending while not sustaining all the beliefs.  I can see his point, you are either in, or you are out, but I don’t agree, as I don’t think it is reality. Who really believes 100% everything? Everyone will have their pet commandment they ignore, could be eating meat (eat meat sparingly), polygamy, becoming as gods, etc.

That mindset of only condoning 100% believers, leads to ignoring the non-traditional believers for callings. I also think if the church was encourage the use of non-traditional believers in callings, they would benefit massively too, as it would lead to a rich diversity and less insular organisation. Showing that people with a variety of beliefs can get along, and create a positive community for us to participate in, it’s a lesson I certainly would love to teach my kids and would like to see the organisation that has such an influence on their upbringing teach that lesson also.

“Careful What You Ask For…You Might Get It” – Now I have opened my mouth, you just know I am going to get the crappest job in the ward now … Sunday School President!


Hello Kolob

A wise and buxom woman once told me, there is a time and place for everything, and only you will know when that time is.

As an almost lifelong (mum converted when I was 7)  Mormon, who has been through all the milestones and out again, a lot of thoughts, feelings and emotions about this culture that is ‘the church’ can build up. Sometimes they blurt out at the wrong time, sometimes they seep out in a passive aggressive, or even a passive nicey-nicey way.

This time though is different, I want to try and get them out in a clear, articulate way, that I like to think I can as a high flying executive. I think this is my time for sharing my true feelings about the culture I grew up in, and am now raising my own kids in.

Now for a few confessions….

I love attending with my family, I love that I had a great youth (happy memories of the infamous dances of Hyde Park, Wandsworth, Imperial College, Reading, Cheltenham, North meets South, Huddersfield, Granada Studios, Manchester) I love the extended network of people I know and respect, I love how most Mormons (and ex-mormons) in the UK are linked in less than 2 hops,  I love the old church films, I love the good morals it teaches my kids, I love the fascination with American culture (where I found my love of rootbeer and reeces pieces), I even love some of the teachings, and as a semi-outsider it is amusing watching some of the internal ward and stake politics that go-on (there are some funny buggers in the church).

I could talk for hours about our culture, and what good the church can do for people. I have seen people come into the church as people who you wouldn’t give the time of day; but though the service, teaching and leadership opportunities the church has given them, grow into more happy, successful and articulate people.

That all said, I do have a few issues with the church as a religion (and probably organised religion in general), but I am happy to put them to one side, and not focus too much on them, as they are well documented elsewhere, and really I want to just concentrate on the good, funny and curious things about my culture, the one that I identify with mostly … Mormon culture.

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